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Saturday, 19 August 2017

Is A Man Invaluable Without A Woman In His Life?

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Hey Guys, here's an OPEN QUESTION that's on my mind. This is a question doesn't really come up that much when talking about social dynamics between MEN & WOMEN, or arguably does from time to time, so I want to bring it up to light to talk about it. With this, it might sound like a silly, nonsensical or obtuse question due to the fact that it has been so ingrained in our mentality, mindset & way of thinking by PEOPLE & SOCIETY to where in which we see it as being COMMON SENSE, COMMON KNOWLEDGE or SIMPLE TRUTH, but with me personally, what I want to do is CHALLENGE IT, ARGUE AGAINST IT and DISMANTLE IT as a belief. With this, you can look at it in different angles and different perspectives, but the angle and perspective that I want to look at it from is a SOCIAL, INTERNAL & MORAL standpoint. This is MAINLY for the MEN in the group, but if the WOMEN do think that they can put some useful insight into it, they can go ahead and answer this question. For the MEN, the question is this:
When it comes to the terms of us as MEN and living out our DAILY LIVES as MEN, excluding the aspect of RELATIONSHIPS, MARRIAGE & FAMILY, do you actually think and actually believe that a MAN is NOTHING or LESS THAN A MAN if he doesn't have a WOMAN actively involved in his life in some way shape or form? Or in other words, do you actually think and actually believe that A MAN needs a WOMAN in his life to VALIDATE, AFFIRM & CREMATE his MASCULINITY, more in particular on the terms of his NATURAL SOCIAL BEHAVIOUR and his MINDSET, MENTALITY & BELIEF SYSTEM?
The reason of why I'm asking this is because there are people out there that actually believe this, with that being BOTH MEN & WOMEN, on the terms of the fact that they actually believe that a MAN is INVALUABLE if he doesn't have a WOMAN in his life, and place a lot of emphasis on the terms of MEN NEEDING WOMEN like they CAN'T LIVE or even BREATHE without them.
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“Nobody’s Perfect”: Are People Today Really Living Life Off By That Phrase?

Monday, 24 July 2017

Command Of Having Non-Interracial Associations: Is It The Same As Promoting Clear & Vivid Racism?

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Hey Guys, here's an OPEN QUESTION that's on my mind. With this, it's based on a topic that is much more serious compared to the ones that I've asked before, with it being something that people all over the world go through on a day-to-day basis, and with it being something that some, if not a lot of people tend to forget still exist. It might sound like a silly, nonsensical or obtuse question to ask and the answer to this might sound like an obvious "YES" but, actually thinking about it in depth, there's tends to be a bit of an ongoing debate on the terms of the fact that you have some people out there that "YES" to this and then you have some people out there that say "NO" to this. With this, we're all capable of experiencing this and being a victim, if some of us have or haven't already, and it's very applicable to the outline of this group being to embrace INTERRACIAL RELATIONS. It might or sound like a relatively common question as well when this topic gets brought for discussion as well. Without further ado, the question is this:
When it comes to RACISM or DISCRIMINATION based off of a person's RACE and ETHNICITY and when it comes to STAYING WITH YOUR OWN RACIAL COMMUNITY, do you that being told to STAY, BE LOYAL TO, BE COMMITTED TO, AND ALWAYS ASSOCIATE WITH PEOPLE OF YOUR OWN RACIAL AND ETHNIC COMMUNITY, especially and more in particular if your PARENTS, GUARDIANS, OLDER RELATIVES & MENTORS tell you that, whether it be on the terms of ACQUAINTANCES, FRIENDSHIPS, RELATIONSHIPS or even MARRIAGE, is the same thing as or equates to PROMOTING RACISM or being DISCRIMINATORY towards someone based on RACE? In other words, is a person basically or automatically being RACIST by implying that?
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Tuesday, 18 July 2017

My Apporach Towards Dr Umar Johnson's Stance On Interracial Dating, Interracial Relationships & Interracial Marriage

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In this article and in this write-up, I'm going to be giving an approach and putting down an opinion towards a world-known public figure's stance on an arguably controversial topic. The public figure goes by the name of Dr Umar Johnson, who for those of you who don't know, is an African-American doctor of clinical psychology and certified school psychologist, from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, who has a specialty, profession and job occupation in working with African-American parents whose children receive special educational treatment from public schools and that are diagnosed with behavioral disorders. As a part of his job and line of work, he travels all around the U.S.A and the world to give lectures that serve the purpose of educating, informing and awakening the spirit of people of African descent. Other than his most notable skill with that being an orator and educator, he is also a book author, political scientist, and pan-African nationalist. He also is and claims to be a blood relative and generational descendant of the great historical figure, abolitionist and freedom fighter that existed and lived throughout the times of African-American enslavement known as Fredrick Douglass.
Now, knowing that he does have a mixed reception from the public, not only based on his views and opinions on certain social issues that pertain to the black community, even though it can be applied to people in general, but also how he handles his profession and comes across as a person, on the terms of the fact that while some people admire him, look up to him and see him as being a leader and role model for the black community, you have some people out there that question and put his credentials into judgement and assessment, with that being the fact that he has six college or university degrees. You have some people out there that call him and label him as being a fraud and imposter, on the terms of the fact that they claim that Umar Johnson isn't his real name, with it allegedly being Jermaine Shoemake, in which he has personally claimed that while at a young age, before the age of nine, he was named Jermaine before his parents changed it to Umar. You have some people that call him a crook and thief on the terms of the fact that he claims he's building a school for young black boys, and while donations have supposedly gone out towards him, they supposedly haven't seen any physical proof of a school being built, any form of business or architecture paperwork in which entails that a school is being built, in which suggest to people that he is cunningly stealing money off of black people's donations due to that. You have some people that see him as being conceited, arrogant and narcissistic on the terms of how he comes across personally and as an individual, in which to some extent, I will agree and affirm to as being a very unattractive trait he has, based off the fact that he is very roister and self-indulged, due to him talking in third-person a lot of times and proclaiming himself with names such as "The Prince Of Pan-Africanism", "BIG POPA" and "King Kong Consciousness". You have some people, with this including some black people themselves other than just white people, that label him as a racist based off of how he talks about white people, how he percieves them and how he makes them out to be.
Now, other than his views and stances on topics that at times, do cause controversy and get publicly, whether it be racism, homosexuality, entertainment, relationships, religion, politics, economics, business and more, there is one topic that he has a stance on that, although he has talked about and reiterated before numerous times previously and in the past, his recent reiteration of it made headlines on social media due to a recent interview he did on one of the most popular, watched, listened and tuned in radio stations for entertainment in the U.S. or the whole world as of that matter with that being "Power 105.1 The Breakfast Club", in which he has been interviewed on before, with it being twice, with the hosts of the show known as DJ Envy, Angela Yee and Charlemagne Tha God. The topic discussed in that interview that mainly made him a trend on social media for recent time is his view on interracial dating, interracial relationships, and interracial marriage.
Now, with interracial dating, interracial relationships and interracial marriage, knowing that it's a topic that although in certain societies, especially in places like the U.S.A and U.K, have either started to accept it or fully accepted it socially speaking, it still gets a mixed reception in certain cases on the terms of the fact while some people don't have a problem or issue with it, some people do and feel uncomfortable to the case of where in which they feel as if it shouldn't be allowed, especially for their offspring, whether it be children, family members and relatives, and there are still some instances of where in which it's against the law to marry someone of another race or different ethnicity in certain countries, in which with that, interlinking into topics like racism, discrimination and more .
Now, going to Dr Umar Johnson and his position on interracial dating, interracial relationships and interracial marriage in which he stated on the recent Breakfast Club interview he had, just so for those of you who don't know what his view on it is, he basically has a problem with it and feels as if black people, black men in particular, since they are into more on average than black women, should stay loyal, faithful and committed to the opposite gender of their own race. He feels as if black people have no need, no right and no business going to date outside of the race or community. He says that he can't respect a black person who says they're committed to the struggle that black people face on a daily basis socially, economically, politically and culturally but yet married to a woman of another race. He says the reason why he feels as if black men date and marry outside the race is because they have low self-esteem, self-hate and feel inferior to white men socially, politically and economically and wish they were them, so the only way to feel on the same level as them is if they marry their white female counterparts, due to the fact that that what they represent, with that being status, power and privilege.
On the terms of my approach towards that, If I'm completely and utterly honest and upfront, even though, regardless of what people say about him, how they currently perceive him and what they try and label him as or create him to be, I respect him on the terms of what he's doing or trying to do for the black community socially, politically, economically and culturally, with the fact being that I do learn new stuff from him that is very insightful, informative, educational and beneficial and as a result, he has turned into being somebody of influence for me, that's the only place where I really radically and aggressively disagree with him and have an issue with him on. This is based off of the fact even though he claims that it's disrespectful towards black women and black female children to participate in it knowing the history that black women have gone through, at the same time, with this coming from the perspective of a black person who prefers to date outside their race, I personally and mutually find it disrespectful for him to come across like that with the view he has on it.
For number one, he isn't in any position to say who a person should or shouldn't date, be in a relationship with or marry. It's their life, their freewill and their choice. He is also not in any position say that a black man doesn't have the right to be called or seen as a "MAN" just because he dates outside his race, in which is another ludicrous statement that he has made in the past towards black men in particular on the subject. It's also the case of where in which I feel as if he's being very bias and unobjective with his view on it, based on the fact that never gets on the black woman's contribution towards black men dating and marrying outside of their race, based off of the fact that he doesn't talk about black women causing black men to go outside the race, due to the fact that a lot of them, in their younger and primitive years, while being in high school prefer "thugs" or men with a very roughneck demeanor and disposition and don't value the supposed "Good" and decent men on the terms of the fact that they are nice, loving, respectful, ambitious, educated, intelligent, hard-working and more, so due to that, black men who are like that end up dating, being in a relationship and marrying outside of their race as a result, due to the fact that women of other races and ethnicities appreciate them more unlike Black Women, so in reality he needs to be getting on their case because they give contribution to it, instead of just jumping down on black men's case only. With that epidemic, it might or probably will be the case of where in which he doesn't even know about it and has probably never experienced it for himself. On the other hand, there's also a possibility that he might know about it but as a result of fear for how black women react to it if he's very harsh on them, he avoids talking about it. If he does get on their case, he will only do it on the terms of them teaching their sons and daughters to find European centric beauty attractive more than their natural beauty with that being Afrocentric beauty when they're younger, in which instills in them the belief that European features, in which is something that white women have, is more attractive than Afrocentric features, in which isn't enough in my personal opinion.
Another thing as well is that he needs to stop comparing us black men of today's society and generation to the black men of years and generations back. That's something that he always does that when the topic comes up for discussion. What exactly does the black men who lived during the civil rights era and the black men who lived during slavery have to do with us black men living in today's society and today's generation​?
Even though we do have connection with our ancestors on a biological sense due to the fact that we're related to them by blood, psychologically and consciously, we're not them on the terms of the times we're living in. With our ancestors and elder generations, they were living in different times, in different places, in different communities and different environments that made them who they were compared to us. With us, the time, place, community and environment that we're currently in is different so, as a result we're going to be made different due to that. In basic terms, we're not them and they're not us and he needs to stop treating us like we're that. Times are different now and he needs to get over himself
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Relationship Advice To Women, PT2: Never Equate Confidence & Self-Esteem To Protection & Security From A Man

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In this article and in this write-up, with it preceding to the previous one that I wrote on here before on this same and exact topic, and with it being unexpected as well, I'm going to be doing what the photo entails in which is to give women relationship advice that I feel as if will be very useful and beneficial for them to take heed of for the future.
Now, just to refresh people's memory and for those of you who are reading this now who didn't or haven't yet come across or even read the first and previous write-up of this and linked to this, in that write-up, in brief summary terms, I talked about how when searching and looking out for a relationship or a potential partner and mate, women should avoid going for and giving time to men who are overconfident in themselves, men who are very arrogant, boastful and prideful of themselves, and men who are very playful and flirtatious them with the reason being that when it comes getting into and entering relationships with them, or more so when the relationship get tested and goes through its turbulent times, a lot of times, they won't be the men that can do what they're naturally supposed to or be expected of doing generically speaking, with that coming in the form of being loyal to them, being faithful to them, being emotionally available and supportive of them, being advisory of them, being able to protect them, being able to provide for them, and being able to be a leader for them and guide them in a relationship.
Now, in this write-up, with this being something that's on my mind heavily, staying on the topic of confidence and self-esteem and using it as the basis for this, to go a little bit more in-depth with it, even though this doesn't apply to all women, with the fact being that this is coming from my personal observations and from what I've personally noticed, although some people could disagree with this and argue against, in which I don't have a problem with, but when talking to, communicating with, having conversations and discussions with, or hearing women talk about the traits and qualities that they like or desire in a man, more in particular when it comes women saying that they want a man who has a high level of confidence or a high level of self-esteem, of in which as I said in the last and previous write-up, is a trait that women find very attractive in a man and that women expect us to have when it comes to catching their attention, there tends to be a common pattern or continuation, in which I would and now personally label as being a misconception, of where in which I hear a lot of them, if not most of them link it with the trait of protection and security, on the terms of the fact that straight after saying that, they'll say, mention or claim that they want to know that they can you keep them protected and secured. In basic terms, a lot of women while also some men being influenced by that have created this formula or equation of where in which they correlate confidence and self-esteem with protection and security, meaning that they think that the more confident a man is, the more likely he is to keep them protected and secure in all or every aspect of a relationship, whether it be physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually, socially, or even sexually.
Ladies, I'm here to tell you that that isn't the case and that is further from truth. Even though there's a small molecule of a correlation of it based on the fact that you do need a degree of self-confidence to get through a lot of things, if not everything in life, whether it comes in the form of being successful in school, university, job, work, healthy friendships, personal goals and more, you need to get and understand the obvious fact that self-esteem and security are two different things that don't go hand in hand. There is not much of a correlation between a person's level of self-assurance and their ability to keep you safe. Just because a man or a person period is very confident and self-assured in himself or themselves, that doesn't mean they have the ability to keep you guarded and grounded in every way possible.
Applying that to women and them pursuing relationships with men, you have men out there who are and appear very confident, if not overconfident and have a very high level of self-esteem, but yet they on the terms of their personal lives, they don't have a job, they live with their mother and/or father, they're still living off their parents, they're very uneducated, when it comes to women all they just do is play their emotions, take advantage of them, use them abuse them and then disregard them and then you have men out there who when looking at them or by looks of it, don't really seem very confident in themselves based off of the fact that they're very introverted, in which in some cases is a bit of a common judgement and perception that introverted people in general get and recieve, with that including women as well, and they don't seem to really have much of a social life and that big of a social circle, but yet they're stable and they have their stuff together on the terms of the fact they're very independent, they're very responsible, they have a job and work, they're very educated and well-informed, they're very wise, they're very selfless and considerate when it comes to other people, especially with women, they're very understanding, they know what it takes cater to a woman and how to treat a woman and so on forth. So in basic terms, never link and correlate the two when looking for a man. They are two completely different things.
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A Letter To My Future Wife

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Dear Future Wife, 


I'm sorry to inform you about this but if you are out there in existence, I want to let you know that in all honesty, I'm turned off and turned away by meeting you and jumping into the potentially life-changing phase of marriage with you, based off of the way people are in this world and this society, especially and more in particular with people of your gender and sex, with no meaning or intention to come across as if I’m being  misogynistic, anti-female or sexist, or for it to be perceived as if I have some sort of deep-seated disdain, resentment or animosity towards women. The fact of the matter is that, a lot of people of your gender and sex are giving you a bad name for me personally, and I don't want that to affect my decision in looking for you, searching for, finding you and then eventually and marrying you, however the urge to go down a different route of life other than marriage is starting to gradually grow on me. This is just to tell you that there is a strong likelihood and possibility that might end up going my own way, meaning that we may end up never meeting each other, and if it's the case of where in which you end up feeling lonely, miserable and depressed because of this, then I'm deeply sorry and remorseful because of it.

Yours Sincerely


Emmanuel 
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Question For Women: Does Confidence & Self-Esteem Equate To Protection & Security For A Man As A Partner?

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Hey Guys, here's an OPEN QUESTION that's on my mind. This is mainly for the WOMEN in the group, but the MEN can chime in and put insight from OUR perspective if they feel wise and knowledgeable enough to. Without further ado, the question is this:
When it comes to RELATIONSHIPS, knowing that a lot of YOU WOMEN place emphasis on being with a MAN who is able to keep you PROTECTED and SECURE in a lot of areas if not ALL areas of a relationship, whether it be physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually, socially or even sexually, and knowing that when it comes to being attracted to men, one of the MAIN THINGS, if not the MAIN THING that has to make a man stand out is CONFIDENCE and SELF-ESTEEM according to you women as well, do you think that there is a strong or definite link between the two, on the terms of the fact that do you HONESTLY believe that the more CONFIDENT a man is, or the more SELF-ASSURED he is, the more likely he is to keep you PROTECTED, SECURE and VERY WELL GROUNDED?
The reason of why I'm asking this is based on the fact that from PERSONAL EXPERIENCE and PERSONAL OBSERVATION, when talking with WOMEN or when hearing WOMEN speak out on what they desire in a MAN, whenever they bring up the trait of CONFIDENCE and SELF-ESTEEM, a lot times straight after it, they mention the fact that they want to know that us as MEN can keep them protected and secure, assuming that confidence and self-esteem is interlinked and correlated with that.
Ladies, do you think that is the actual case and if so, how do you think the process for it goes exactly?
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