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Saturday, 25 November 2017

Why Are Some Men Afraid Of Commitment?

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In this article and write-up, I'm going to be discussing, talking about and explaining the reasons of why in which some men are afraid of commitment when it comes to civil partnerships, in essence relationships and marriages, with this being something that some, if not a lot of women tend to either always question lot of the time, be concerned about when it comes to seeking out for companionships with men, or if not even be a bit frustrated, irritated, complain and moan about in that regard while they are looking for serious and devoted of forms of relationships and marriages. This is something that some, if not a lot of women have also always wanted to know the answer to, and hear us men explain ourselves for it, so this is just my personal theory on it that I'm going to break down and explain.

Now, before I get into it, as a lot of people should know, I just want to say that it's not just men out there that are afraid of commitment, meaning that you have women out there that are afraid of commitment as well, however, to speak for the men, due to the fact that I am one and due to it being a little bit more of a common feeling and intuition within the male community to feel this way, especially and more in particular with the men of today's generation that are going through a growing epidemic of where in which a majority of them don't want to get married, feel apathetic towards marriage, are now trying to avoid it, as well as dating and long-term relationships, of in which I have talked about before, or are now starting to realize, from their point of view, that they don't have to desire a relationship or marriage.

Firstly, to start off, on the terms of why in which some men are afraid of being committed to a woman, for the sake of not trying to come across as if I'm generalising and as if I'm trying putt all men in one category due to the fact that it's not all men who are afraid of commitment, but with the ones that are afraid of commitment and try to avoid it, with a lot of them, they realize that it takes time, responsibility, with that arguably being the biggest thing that they fear, effort, stress, sacrifice & compromise being in a committed relationship with a woman and being devoted to a woman. That is something that they've more likely never been trained for and never been taught how to do when it comes to relationships and marriages, so due to that, whenever they hear the term "commitment" come from the mouth of a woman, they fear it instantly and immediately and associate it with something bad and something to be cautious about.

To go further down the line, with a lot of them, on the terms of their childhood, they either grew up in a home with no father-figure to look up to for that relationship and marriage preparation, or they did but the father didn't teach them any relationship or marriage morals and values, especially with one of them being commitment, or taught them the wrong things. So what happens is that when they grow up, when they are at an age of where in which you would expect them to want and find a relationship or marriage, and a woman approaches them and talks about how she wants a serious, devoted & committed relationship, they get scared of that because they know that they were never taught how to do that or be that, and if they do enter a relationship or marriage with the expectation from the woman to be committed, they know they're not good enough for that or can never be that, so as a result, they panic and run.

Another reason of why in which some men are afraid of commitment, even though with this being something that is a lot of times more common with women when it comes to relationships, people tend to forget that it applies to men also as well, is due to the fact that some of them let other men, whether it be friends, colleagues or older male role models who have had bad experiences in relationships and marriages influence them to become reluctant to a relationship or marriage.

Another reason of why in which some men are afraid of commitment is due to the fact that some of them witness how relationships and marriages have destroyed and messed up the lives of some other men, especially and more in particular with men that they personally know, and then from there, they let it change their perception and view of relationships and marriages, so as a result they become afraid of it, due to thinking that if they're not careful, it could be them in the mutual situation.

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Wednesday, 22 November 2017

Is A Woman Actually Useful To The Life Of An Independent & Sucessful Businessman & Entreprenuer?

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When it comes to the terms of men in business and entrepreneurship and linking it in with civil partnerships such as relationships and marriages, before I, as well as other men and other people in general probably and more likely, used to think that once a man enters the role of entrepreneurship, builds up a business and becomes very successful with it, or once he's en-routed to it, he should take time to find a woman who's relationship and marriage material that's going to help, aid and support him in his business and entrepreneurship. 

However, now that I think of it, if it's the case of where in which he built up the business successfully and properly on his own, with that meaning that he's independent, he doesn't have to enter a relationship or get married, based on the fact that, in my personal opinion, a woman won't be useful, essential and important due to him showing and revealing the fact he's actively and comfortably running the business on his own without any spousal support, spousal interference or spousal intervention. As a matter of fact, if it's the case of where in which he's not wise and careful when it comes to the world of dating, relationship and marriage world, it's better for him to not jump into a civil partnership, because it could destroy him and potentially his business if it stems into it. 

In basic words, a businessman and male entrepreneur doesn't have to share his success with a women and use his success to take care of a woman through the form of a relationship or marriage based off of the fact that that is what society tells a man, or anybody in that position to do, or because that's what society or women expect him to do. I'm not trying to imply that a man who is doing that is selfish, self-centred and self-absorbed, nor am I trying to imply that a man who does that is devaluing the presence of a woman in his life. I'm also not trying to come across as if I myself am trying to devalue, undermine, disregard or even disrespect women, due to the fact that is what some people, women especially and more in particular would perceive and judge men in that situation, with that intuition or judge me as doing while reading this, because their not and I'm not, however, it's just the simple fact that they don't have to seek romantic companionship if it's not their hearts desires to. However, you also have to take into consideration of the fact that some, if not a lot or if not majority of women who approach those type of men or men in those positions only want to reap the benefits of his success only, so in some cases it better for him to be single and protect himself from that.
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Monday, 2 October 2017

Are Black Men Obsessed With Female Pursuit More Compared To Other Races Of Men?

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Hey Guys, here's an OPEN QUESTION that's on my mind. Now, with this question, if I were to be completely honest, it's a bit risky for me to talk about OPENLY and discuss based on the fact that, other than some people being DISHONEST towards this, I might receive some backlash from people, with this being based two things with that being RACE & ETHNICITY and social dynamics between MEN & WOMEN, specifically the BLACK MEN in this group or my "BROTHERS" as a better way of saying it, since it's based on us and about us as MEN and the way some, if not a lot of us commonly behave and act when it comes to women, BLACK WOMEN especially and particular, HOWEVER some of the WHITE & NON-BLACK WOMEN here in this group could probably testify and affirmto this through their experiences when it comes to SOCIALIZING WITH BLACK MEN. With no intent to bash, ridicule, shame, mock and throw all my black brothers under the bus, and no meaning to come across as I'm generalizing all of us, putting us all into one category and trying to reiterate and reinforce one of the stereotype that has been placed on us by people and society, so if you know you're an exception to this and if it doesn't apply to you, please don't bother getting upset, but at the same time , let us as BLACK MEN have a HONEST, GENUINE and SINCERE CONVERSATION about this. With this, what inspired this was the fact that I overheard another brother talking about this and how he feels that in the BLACK COMMUNITY with BLACK MEN, it tends to be a bit of a major issue, if not a whole lot of major issue, even though this can apply to MEN in general, REGARDLESS OF RACE & ETHNICITY, so I just want to bring it up for discussion myself to see what you guys think. Without further ado, brothers, the question is this:
When it comes to the terms of the BLACK COMMUNITY, with this being BLACK PEOPLE ALL OVER THE WORLD, do you think that us as BLACK MEN are OBSESSED with CHASING DOWN & PURSUING WOMEN for WHATEVER IT IS whether it be for SEX, in which is the MOST COMMON THING to do it for, DATING, RELATIONSHIPS or even MARRIAGE, to the point of where in which it's seen as being COMPULSORY, MANDATORY or an EXPECTATION to do so compared to OTHER RACES & ETHNIC COMMUNITIES? Or in other words, do you think us as BLACK MEN are OBSESSED with it to the point of where in which if you're a BLACK MAN that's not into that, you're LOOKED AT DIFFERENTLY, SEEN, JUDGED & LABELLED as being WEIRD and STRANGE, and even get OSTRACIZED, CHASTISED & MARGINALIZED from the BLACK COMMUNITY for it compared to OTHER RACES & ETHNIC COMMUNITIES? Also, do you think BLACK WOMEN or WOMEN IN GENERAL as of that matter, with that going back to MEN IN GENERAL, are so used to it, to the point of where in which, if you don't do it towards them, they feel INSULTED by it?
P.S I'm sorry to bring up race and ethnicity, but it was a topic that I overheard someone speak on that resonated with me and that I agree with them on, so I thought it be best to be HONEST, SINCERE and OPEN about this, so for the BLACK MEN & BLACK WOMEN in this group, please don't bother with this and get upset about this, but at least try to be HONEST and REAL about this
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Saturday, 30 September 2017

Do Women Today Really Value "Strong" Men?

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Hey Guys, here's an OPEN QUESTION that's on my mind. ANYBODY can answer it. Now, with this, other than the fact it's based on social dynamics between MEN & WOMEN, it's also based on something that might be hard to talk about, discuss and admit the truth on if you were to be honest, especially and more in particular for us MEN, with it being the fact that it's something that people in general, with that being WOMEN THEMSELVES & OTHER MEN, have noticed about MEN over the years and have CRITICIZED MEN about in recent years. With this, some people, the MEN in this group especially while also some of the WOMEN in the group may get offended as well, may disagree with this, may try and REFUTE this, in which I personally don't have a problem or issue with, or some of you may even take offence to this, so if it doesn't apply to you, don't bother getting upset, but at the same time, let's have a HONEST, SINCERE & GENUINE CONVERSATION ABOUT THIS. This is MAINLY coming from my observation. Without further ado, the question is this:
When it comes to the terms of the EMASCULATION, FEMINIZATION and MARGINALIZATION of MEN in the WESTERN WORLD or WESTERN SOCIETY today, with that being something that a lot of people talk about when it comes to the MEN of TODAY, linking that in and with WOMEN & RELATIONSHIPS currently today, I tend to notice that a lot of the MEN that some if not a lot of WOMEN are in relationships with or even married to, are either very EFFEMINATE or DOCILE, not just on the terms how they act, behave or function within the relationship, with that coming in the form of allowing the WOMAN to LEAD, DOMINATE & CONTROL the relationship, them being SUBMISSIVE to the WOMAN, them letting the WOMAN tell them what to do and them letting the WOMAN disrespect them, walk over them or treat them any way or how, and have LOW SELF-ESTEEM, but more so on the terms of how they carry themselves as people, on the terms of the fact that they BEHAVE like WOMEN, they CARRY THEMSELVES WOMEN, they ACT LIKE WOMEN and at times they even THINK LIKE WOMEN, rather than with MEN that are still in touch with their MASCULINITY, a lot of times, they're single and not in a relationship or married and WOMEN don't give them that much attention, even though some of them will chase and pursue women.
If that is the case, do you think that WOMEN today don't really want MEN who are "STRONG" and in touch with their MASCULINITY as much as they say or claim that they do, or as much as it's their supposed nature to?
Please, be as honest as you can.
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