Not Dating Or Entering Relationship If Marriage Ins't The End Result: The Phrase & Saying Is Completely Wrong To Believe In & Not The Right Way Of Thinking - Emmanuel Ale Life Info

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Monday, 27 March 2017

Not Dating Or Entering Relationship If Marriage Ins't The End Result: The Phrase & Saying Is Completely Wrong To Believe In & Not The Right Way Of Thinking

When it comes to the terms of RELATIONSHIPS and MARRIAGES, there are some people that SAY or BELIEVE in the form, phrase or saying of where it says that if it's the case of where in which "if the relationship isn't going to lead to marriage, there's no point jumping in it" or "Why jump in the relationship, if marriage isn't the result?"'. The thing with that phrase is that it's wrong say that or to believe in that based off of the fact that, for number one, why is it the case of where in which you are automatically or immediately assuming and jumping to the conclusion that you are going to marry this person before even getting into the relationship with them. The relationship is the testing ground or evaluation process for going to the next step or stage of life with that person, with that being marriage, so that means that you should be patient and let the relationship do that for itself, on the terms of it opening your eyes to that once you're ready, or at the right moment. The thing about that is that if you think like that or believe in that, or if you are with a person who is going to be like that, what's going to happen next is that you're going to rush the relationship or you're going to feel rushed in the relationship, through the form of putting pressure on that person to marry you, or you feeling pressured to marry them or talking about marriage to them or marriage being discussed too early on in the relationship. Now, with no meaningful intent to bring gender into the picture, but, just to say it and put it out there, if I were to be honest, a lot of times, I personally, see men do that to their partners a lot more rather than women, even though there are some women that do it too, although some people could disagree and see it differently, and even though, at the same time, again for me personally, that's a bit of a strange and unusual thing to see, because it's usually women, in a lot of cases or on average, that are more open to the idea of being married and a lot more eager to get married then men, so in that dynamic, you would expect them to do that more, but it's not always the case. Number two, it's also the case of where in which there is nothing wrong with being in a relationship with somebody and then realising that they aren't the person to go down the route of marriage, with that being something that a lot of people think or feel as if is wrong to be in on the terms of that particular feeling or being in that situation. Just because you didn't end up going down the route of marriage, that doesn't necessarily mean that they weren't worth being in a relationship with or that being in a relationship with them was a waste of time or that they weren’t a good person to be in a relationship with, even though sometimes, that might be the actual case. 

However, if you were to look at it a bit differently or in a different limelight, with this applying to anybody, man or woman, if it’s the case of where in which you are dating or in a relationship with a person, and when you open up to them and communicate to them about the idea of marriage in the potential future, regardless of what point it’s on in the dating process or relationship process, whether it’s early on, middle or later on, and they tell you bluntly that they don’t want that or that they aren’t interested in that, rather than you who is, in that sense or in that case, the right thing to do is to stop dating them or end the relationship with them, because they’ve shut down that option or route that you wanted to go down, so there’s no point being in it, so in that case, there’s some truth to the phrase or saying. However, if it’s the case of where in which you tell them about the idea of marriage and their response it that they aren’t 100% sure or that they’re still trying to figure out if marriage is the best, right and appropriate option for them or if that they’re still trying to figure out and evaluate if you are the right or ordained person to go down that route with, the best thing to do is, hang on in there and continue on with the dating or relationship process based on the fact that that they might come to the idea or revelation that you are the right person for them to marry or that you’re ordained to marry them after a while, if the dating process or relationship is going smooth, in the right direction or if it’s going okay. However, with that, that’s where the issue lies on the terms of the fact that for the people who are in that situation, women especially, they take that in as the case of where in which they aren’t interested in marriage at all, so due to that, they choose to stop dating the person or end the relationship, in which doesn’t mean that you should do that, but they do it anyway.







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